Oh, he did--I just meant even one 45-minute joint session focusing on that really. We only met individually twice, and that was 2 years ago. That was when he said his door was always open to me, then changed his mind. He's OK with occasional phone calls (and e-mails/texts)--and has specifically said this, just not meeting individually in person. (Last phone call was mid-January--and they tend to be more if MC and I had a conflict, or occasiionally if I'm just generally struggling--not stuff about H).

I think part of the issue too is it feels like our joint sessions have just become about what's happened in the past week--there's not really some theme or goal running through them. We're talking about the trees, not as much the forest (though that came up more last week at least) I've felt that way for a long time, too. Like some bigger topic--the forest--will come up (like the roles H and I play in our relationship), MC says we can continue another week (since we only really talked about my role), then...never happens. And we'll spend 10 minutes some sessions talking about random stuff (like college basketball), which was fine when it was a 55-min session, but not so much if it's only 45. I wish MC would take the lead more if we seem to be meandering, but I know he and T both do client-led. I suppose I could bring that up...