Thank you everyone

the bipolar stuff is nothing new to my husband - was diagnosed long before I met him and told him right away. We've had this "fight" countless times. I've asked him for 2 things over and over again: 1. if you don't get it, then do some research or ask me (I've gotten him a book, sent him websites, and taken him to a group before). and 2. be more affectionate/attentive during these times. I don't know what else I can do. I am NOT a needy person most of the time, but when I am I am. Also, I don't need him to fully "get it," I just need to feel like he is there for me. Instead he seems to prefer his ignorance because it's easier for him to deal with. I'm not sure how that makes a good partner.