Me and the wife go through SI differently. I want affection. I want to be cuddled. I want her to want me. But her on the other hand, she pulls away and pushes me away at the same time. Like Wild Coyote said, I do take her SI very personally. I feel like I've failed her, and because I've failed her I don't know what to say, so I don't say anything at all. I know that's a selfish way to look at it, but I do take it very personal. I feel like I should have seen this before it got this bad. I feel like if I did more (of god knows what... just more) she wouldn't be having those feelings. I feel like I let her down and dunno how to fix it. I'm a fixer and when something is wrong I want to fix it, especially for her. So, when I feel like I can't fix it I feel it is better to stay away than to make it worse. Like I said, not the best way but It's the only way I know how to handle it.

And just like you and your husband it's caused lots of fights. I just wish she was more like you and would tell me what to do.