For me resolution occurred on multiple levels over time. It was also a paternal transference. Some of the levels were unconscious, some partly conscious, and some very directly addressed. But common to all the levels I think was a sense of unmet needs being fulfilled. This was largely something that happened as a result of other work. It was the day in day out interactions within the relationship, the attitudes held, and the feelings articulated that did the work. Addressing the transference directly wasn't of any use until those underlying needs were largely satisfied. At that point direct discussion and analysis of the needs and their fulfillment was very helpful.

As Echos has said, I don't know that such work is compatible with a T's role as a MC because his client is really you and your husband as a unit.