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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
He's said that working through transference (rather than avoiding/running from it) can be good, especially if one has had bad experiences in the past. Because it can take a past experience and give it a new, better ending (like, not being hurt/abandoned). So at first, I thought resolving the transference just meant accepting that MC wouldn't reject or abandon me.
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I find the expression "working through transference" hollow and meaningless. Everyone says it, nobody really defines it. Some of the therapists I worked with talked about its importance. Not sure they even knew what they were saying. My experience with this was a disaster. Wasn't botched transference, it was just a bad relationship.
If the idea is that troubling conflicts from childhood can be resolved by projecting them onto a proxy that you talk to for an hour per week, and that these projections can be trusted to be true representations of childhood deprivations and not byproducts of the therapy relationship, then that sounds quite far-fetched. And there's always the chance that it will intensify the deprivations.
Seems the onus is on the therapist to elaborate a process and to justify this selling point with substance.