Generally that happens to me when I am going through high anxiety or high depression. It's hard for me to open up during those times - so when I do, every second it takes to get a response increases the amount of invalidation I feel.

I wonder if there is a way to incorporate what I know logically into the things I think when I am in a high state of depression or anxiety. Maybe that would help me most if I could bridge that gap...[/QUOTE]

Excellent post. At times I feel like nobody cares and it feels painful and lonely. Still working on feeling and accepting love when I'm in an anxious or depressed state.