I said something else--

I've never been angry with L (or at least not even remotely enough to confront her)

The couple times I've been angry with M, he wasn't defensive but also was not what I'd call chill. He was very concerned and serious and worked hard to help us come back to a balanced place. If he'd been chill in either of the situations I'd brought up, I would have felt like he didn't care. But if it were a small thing, say something more transference than logic-based, I'd hope that everyone would be calm and "chill," yes.