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Originally Posted by anais_anais
I said something else--
I've never been angry with L (or at least not even remotely enough to confront her)
The couple times I've been angry with M, he wasn't defensive but also was not what I'd call chill. He was very concerned and serious and worked hard to help us come back to a balanced place. If he'd been chill in either of the situations I'd brought up, I would have felt like he didn't care. But if it were a small thing, say something more transference than logic-based, I'd hope that everyone would be calm and "chill," yes.
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I haven't been able to get either of my therapists to see this distinction -- I've always provided what I thought was logic-based (very pointed) evidence (sometimes to the extent of including dates, times, exact words said and so on) and still been either told it's transference (although the facts weren't completely denied by the therapists) or given some random other reason (that in current T's case currently seems to keep changing session to session).
I'd hope though that mine's an isolated experience and more therapists are able to pick apart the one from the other.