In brief - husband and I have agreed to divorce after 27 years marriage (I suggested it). 3 adult children at home, all students with no income. We leave in a rural location with no public transport. Children cannot drive and require transporting to their university. Daughter is diagnosed with anxiety, one son is undergoing testing for autism.

Husband earns well. I am completely dependent on him. I am a university student, no job. I thought I'd be eligible for student financial support but ownership of our property means I am not.

As soon as we agreed to divorce, husband moved into our powered shed and introduced his girlfriend to the family. She has moved in with him. Neither the children nor I had any inkling she existed.

Husband wants me gone and has reduced the money he gives me to an amount that does not feed us. I became very depressed and anxious. While I am glad he has found someone, I feel completely supplanted and unwanted and I don't think this was a sensitive action on his part. Children are all very angry with him and it is impacting their study.

I told him I could leave if he takes over transporting them to the train station morning and afternoon. He tells me he cannot make that commitment. So if I go, the children have to drop out of study.

I am about to apply for job seeker financial support but this means I agree to take any job offered, which means if I take an evening job (very likely) then I cannot transport them anyway. Eldest son is seeking accommodation elsewhere. Our city is very expensive but he is into his third year of study and wishes to continue. Younger son is requires much support and may not be able to live independently without occasional supervision. Daughter is in a pit of anxiety and depression, as am I.

Financial support will be available to me once I don't have the property in my name. Husband's lawyer has advised him not to pay me out till I move out. I cannot obtain financial support until after payout when I am not listed as co-owner of our property.

I am feeling stuck and very helpless. Probably this is due to my depression but I am not finding a way through. My local charity gave me a food parcel and told me that limiting my finances constitutes domestic abuse. I know I need to speak to a lawyer and get everything moving but I am afraid of what might happen if I do. My husband is being very distant, he has always been self centred but he seems quite bitter and definitely annoyed that I am still around.