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Old Apr 25, 2017, 11:01 AM
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Originally Posted by yagr View Post
I understand your feelings of loss. Though swings were not something that I missed, I'm sure all of us here have had childhoods with loss - if only the joy of living without fear. I agree with everyone else who said that it is a great idea to go swing now, but understand that the loss is still there. We can't go back but we can enjoy the swings (and everything else) differently now.
I have found we can go back and relive childhood activities the same way that we would have the first time.

example one time I told my therapist I was upset that I had never gone on a merry go around, or played tag. she told me ok lets go do those things. I laughed and told her it wouldn't be the same now that I was an adult. She said it is only not the same if you think its not the same... any adult regardless of mental or physical challenges can experience the wonders of childhood in the same ways that children do. all it takes is opening one self up to the whole experience.. dont do the childhood activity using the adult logical mind of noticing all that can go wrong, and other adult like perspectives. to look at the situation like you would any other first time situation. remember that gut feelings of excitement and wonder that you felt the first time you went to a bar at age 21. that same feeling is what children feel when doing things for the first time. remember that gut excitement and oh wow this is going to be so cool with a slight fear the first time you as an adult traveled somewhere, remember that gut feeling of excitement and wonder from every time you go to a store and buy your self or someone else something.... those same gut feelings are what you would have felt as a child when doing something fun, exciting and a bit fearful... bottom line is the brain is something that is there in a persons body for their whole life so how a person feels is how they will feel those feelings all their life, excitement will feel the same way in the same person whether they are a child or an adult. the difference is how we go about controlling those feelings and how we go about expressing those feelings. people can throw caution to the wind and just let their self go and experience a going on the merry go around or play tag with out censoring their emotions. they can take in all the wonder, and excitement of everything that playing on a merry go around can give.

At first I didnt believe my therapist but then we went to a playground and got on a merry go around. at first I was a bit reserved.. Im an adult on a child playground equipment I must look strange and my therapist said hey get rid of the adult judgements and just play, look at the colors arent they "neat" listen to the sound we are making while going around and around we are whistling and she throws up her arm and leans outwards, drag your hand along the sand as we go around bet I can make a train track... on and on we played and suddenly I noticed I was having the same feelings I did when I was a child when I was playing a favorite game and I was experiencing the activity from a childs perspective of joy, excitement, and it increased when my therapist jumped off the merry go round "tagged" me and said "your it" there we were two adult women in the park running around like children playing tag and having every bit of every one of my senses and emotions experiencing it identical to what I would have as a child. how did I know this because I had some good memories of my childhood to compare it to. for two hours that day I played on the merry go around and played tag just like any other child in the world.

afterwards my treatment provider explained to me the therapy concept of the child with in... that every human being has a part of their self where they feel and express things in a childs way. most people learn how to control their self and conform to the ways of society, rules, laws but because we have already experienced childhood our brains have those memories and emotions. those never go away. Sometimes they come out in good ways like how a person feels and expresses their self on special occasions and other times these child like qualities everyone has comes out in a wrong way like when humans have the urge to throw a temper tantrum out of anger,

then she told me as a person with DID I had an extra edge on being able to experience things for the first time like i would have had I done those things as a child.... I had child alters who did child things. why else was there dolls, stuffed animals, board games like candy land and shoots and ladders, coloring books crayons and so forth around my home.

I tell you I had the best day and I still find things that I have never done as a child and I go out and do them. one of the reasons why my wife and I go to the north pole NY every winter is to enjoy that child like feelings/ emotions and such...

yes I firmly believe a person can do anything they want and feel like the child they once were at the same time with out the adult side of things interfering, it just takes being open to doing so.

Last edited by amandalouise; Apr 25, 2017 at 01:16 PM. Reason: spelling
Thanks for this!
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