I'm having a similar situation with a friend, but to a lower degree. It can still be annoying/troubling.

I'm no one to judge but, perhaps some distance is in order? I don't think it'll help your well-being to keep getting this kind of negative attention.

In my case I find myself regretting telling my friend about my depression and all that it emcompasses...

I understand there can be coincidences, but with her it's been one after another after another to the point that I find myself skeptical and unwilling to share certain parts of my healing journey with her anymore. She was suddenly going through the same situation I was, even repeating some of the very same things I said or did, but what bothered me the most was that the few times I pointed out the coincidence/s (either to make talk about it, perhaps she truly was going through this, or because I was growing skeptical) she'd feign not remembering it at all and even claim to have thought/lived it herself. I gave her the benefit of doubt the first few times, but the more it has happened, the less I believe her...

During the last few weeks I have set some distance between us, and she has purposefully puts herself in certain threatening/troubling situations/relationships, and makes sure to let me know... when the attention she gets (at least from me) is not what she expected (e.g., advise instead of pity) she gets passive-aggressive/defensive. More than a few times she's made me feel worse about myself (e.g., making me feel like a bad friend for not being available to her whenever she wanted it as she wanted it, making insinuations that I'm depressed because I want to and should just snap out of it, etc.).

So I've limited our interaction for now, considering whether we can still be friends or if I should move on. She's younger than me, both of us are in a chnging moment. For now she knows I'm here if she needs help, especially now that I'm getting better/more resilient and have strength to offer decent support. Perhaps when I'm finally stable we can be close again, I'd Love to see her copying my health and passion rather than my ailments. Or perhaps not, perhaps we'll part our ways, and that'll be the healthier thing for both.