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Thanks all for the inputs. Yes, my father, I strongly believe, is the reason why I am not sociable. He doesn't know that he instilled in me the fears; the automatic way of thinking to avoid people and get anxious. It is all subconscious.
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YES, and unfortunately, while you can recognize that, especially now that you are home and around him, he is not going to see "his" failures from your past and even now. Yes, it's early programming that runs in the subconscious mind and even one's emotions.
Now, while you are recognizing this, as I mentioned, it's good to jot these statements he makes down so that you can work on helping yourself "not" say the same things to yourself. Just because your fathers says things doesn't mean they are true. Also, it doesn't mean you have to allow yourself to emotionally engage in it either.
That takes time to "slowly" distance from, but after a while you will gain on that.