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Originally Posted by colorsofthewind12
I could but I don't see the point. Either he will get defensive which will cause a big fight or or somehow smooth things over.
I've been here before with my T many times. Nothing seems to get resolved even though superficially it may appear to be.
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How do you know how he would react? is ist experience because you tried to in the past? or is it your own perception of what he
might do?
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Lately, I am feeling that he is frustrated and bored by my lack of progress(yawns during session, gets visibly irritated).
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That is your interpretation. Why don't you ask him: "Are you frustrated and bored? I get the impression from XYZ that you might be..."
I am very often under the impression (convinced!!) that my T is angry at me. Quite often when I mention this, this brings about the really meaningful and deep converstations about core issues.
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I am also feeling frustrated(so I am not just projecting) and feeling stuck by my very slow progress
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You could tell him this as well, tell him that you feel stuck. That you feel there isn't much progress or that you are frustrated because you feel not much is changing... Make this about YOU and not your T. How YOU feel. That you are wondering sometimes whether you are "unfixable".
It is in those moments when I'm telling my T those ^^^things, that we can really move forward and cover some new ground. My T might then ask me, what do I mean by "unfixable"? What makes me feel that way? Is this a permanent feeling or has this been triggered by something? Maybe something she said or did?
And, you know, you
could be projecting your own frustration onto your T... Just a thought.
No-one here can tell you whether your T is a good fit for you or not. You have to decide. Also, your T cannot "fix" you - unfortunately that is your responsibility. Your T can help you along the way, guide you, give his input, encourage you. But bringing about change? That's up to you
