Maybe you couldn't hear his voice before because you weren't actually sure what he was saying.

Now you are beginning to know. Now you can begin to hear T's voice and maybe even open the window a bit when you hear him coming towards the house. Soon you wil even be able to let him through the door. You are in the midst of a repair and at some point you will be able to sit at the table together.

If you want, I'll do free couples therapy for you and T. I could use the practice.