Dear Justy --

This woman is not offering friendship. She is a user and abuser. She doesn't respect herself, so how can she respect you or anyone else?

I had a "friend" who started an affair with a former flame at HER WEDDING to another man. She started using me as the "beard" for her outings. When I objected, she said that she understood that some people were "not open minded" about these things.

What I got out of this was that -- if this was how she would treat the man she had sworn to love and treasure forever, in front of a church full of people at a very fancy wedding -- then how could I, a mere "friend," expect any better treatment from her? And after I got that, I got out of the relationship, by being nonresponsive.