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I'm getting angry and I should be able to control that better.

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says who? where was that written down? and why can't you be angry? even randomly? Divorce sucks donkey butt. Even in the most amicable splits... there are all sorts of things to get to you.

i mean, it's probably best to have a "team" and therapists and all to handle as much as well as possible.. it's probably better to be learning how to be apropriate and well in control... but DAMN.. i happen to think being downright snarly now and again is healthy.

Get rid of the guy. Period. Your husband will be mad, and i don't know your circumstances, but he'll get over it or he wont.. either way, you'll be fine. If you sell out your feelings everytime so as to prevent someone else's displeasure... well.. no wonder gasketts are popping.

What part of all of this is about you? i mean, who exactly is thinking of your feelings? Is your husband thinking that he should do X or you might be mad? i doubt it somehow.

all easier said than done.

you've said in a number of ways that you feel you have done your level best to work with this guy and he has not reciprocated. You feel insulted and even threatened by him. i think that the decision to replace him is a must. It's very reasonable.. and honestly you've tried harder than i would have.

so listen... go buy yourself a tub of ben & jerrys, a bottle of godiva liqueur and crawl into an herbal bath. Lock the bathroom door and put music on to drown everyone out. For one hour it will be "planet sunrise."