Fuzzy,

I think that determining others progress isn't really possible over the internet. We only get little glimpses of where they are by the words they choose to write & from that, it's hard to get a true picture of where some people are.

I am having a problem even dealing with progress (or lack or progress) with my husband. Contradictions all over the place & even with what I get from my psychologist who is also working with my husband. What he sees & the words that come out of my husbands mouth are a huge contradiction. Then I look at actions because I truely believe that actions speak louder than words (which is why I don't believe that the true place a person is can always be told over the internet unless they are wonderful at expressing themselves in the written word).

Now how I am dealing with lack of progress in the real world isn't good. My frustration level is so high when placed on top of everything I am personally going through that It is making me feel really sick. That feeling is something only I can control & I have to figure out how to control that internally before I ever let it mess me up any more that it is right now & than I have to let go.....that isn't easy when it's with a person you have been with for 32 years......

But letting go of people who refuse to make progress & the changes necessary for our own well being is the key point to our well being.

It isn't easy to let go....& I'm not doing a very good job even though I know that is what I need to do for my own mental & physical health,
Debbie