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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
I am sorry my friendship online cannot be enough - it is all I can offer you. Friendship, whether online or not, is a precarious thing. Friends are not bound to the same committment as a spouse. That means that while sometimes you will reach for them, they may not be available. It does not mean they necessarily don't want to be there for you - but they may be on vacation, or you may have lost touch for a time, or they may be sleeping or a myriad of other reasons. Each type of relationship comes with its own definition of "love" and its own boundaries - you either accept them or you don't.
I know it can be hard, but I hope you find a way to accept the boundaries that come with friendship and what it's type of love is.
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It's not that it's not enough. I really find the idea of a friend hard to define, so to say. I've often struggled with that when it came up on questionnaires, etc. And online makes it even more difficult. I guess I could say that my sister's (possible) ex is my friend, except what if I never talk to him again?
I think I might genuinely have a problem with attachment to people...
I struggle to think of times when my relationships were not dysfunctional in any way. For example, a person I called a friend (in questionnaires at least) the longest time was 7 years my junior when I was in school.