Good. you should be. more common than you think and not even the cases where people are after money or something. Many out there are not who they pretend to be and for various reasons.

To get over your confidence issues I suggest staying away from online. Breaking the ice with women irl is going to go a lot further to building your confidence in yourself with women. Yes online will do that somewhat but it's never truly a test unless you do it (approach them I mean) face to face.

as for "performing" in the bedroom. first. toss that thought out the window. If the one you are with is someone that you care about and want to be with "performance" is the last thing you need to concentrate on and there isn't really a method or a way, unless you plan or want to be a player that is out just to get laid all the time and I don't think that's what you're after. So in a nutshell, don't worry about it. In most cases with two people in love it works just fine.