This is a really interesting thread, thank you for starting it LT.

I think I have/have had some quite strong transference with my T, but we don't usually talk about it as such. My T definitely is quite clear that he is in a way using the therapeutic relationship to show me and teach me about healthy relationships: like how to deal with disagreements and move on, that kind of thing.

I used to feel very attached and perhaps a bit obsessive over T: I would think about him literally ALL the time at one point. I nearly drove myself mad! It was reassuring because it was my first experience of feeling really secure in a relationship and having someone know things about me and not think I was bad in any way, but at the same time it was annoying and a little scary how strong my feelings of attachment were.

Over time this has eased, and now although I would say I am still very attached to T it is more of a peaceful and secure attachment, knowing I can see him when I need to and that he cares about me, and less of obsessive ruminating, re-playing everything he says over and over in my head.