You were fed and clothed ... etc because it is your parents' duty and responsibility to do that for bringing you on this life. Even cats and rats take care of their babies until they are strong enough to leave and live their lives independently. Why we humans give so much credit for our parents for feeding us and providing us with the necessities? That being said, I am not denying all of this, BUT, this doesn't mean I have to respect them only because of that. I would have forgiven their past mistakes had they respected me now as an adult and treated me as a human being who is independent. But no, it is an ongoing drama, and it won't end until I bow under their feet and do what they wish or want me to do, which isn't going to happen. I don't show them respect because they don't respect me. It is that simple for me. I may not show them hostility and rudeness but this doesn't mean I respect them. I deserve to be respected and be happy, even if this means to cut them off, which is a possibility for me. For you may be it is different, but then we are different and approach things differently. My siblings are OK with their abuse, but I am not.