you know scott... the funny thing is that transference isn't necessarily a sexual thing.. and even worse, sometimes it can feel almost romantic and still be involving a same sex T... even when both T and client are straight. And oh yes, age doesn't save us either.

try researching scott, transference is what you're looking for, specifically erotic or romantic transference.

it's all about power dynamics, need, desire and unmet needs... that granny T might just have had the right note of empathy that hooked you and you would have beem mortified to find yourself thinking about her all the time.

a good match of personalities in a therapeutic relationship (young, old, straight, bi, gay, male, female or guppy) should cause certain things to happen... the client projects or transfers their issues into that room, and onto that therapist. It's a powerful thing.

it's not always about gender or sex.. some people transfer parental issues onto the T. Many many people fight it off, never say a word and even change Ts.

some people see their T's as a mother or father figure

and it doesn't mean what it seems... or rarely. Being highly attracted sexually to a T "could" mean unmet needs as a child... neglect, abandonment fears... or it could just mean the T is hot!

i'm not coming down on you dude.. just sharing. It;s a very interesting and deep concept. Just for zhits and giggles, ask your man-your-age T about what transference is all about.. like is it normal for a client to feel like they are in love with a T. i'm sure he could give you a better explanation than i.