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Originally Posted by Bozdickens
There is this girl I see around, she's like 3 or 4 years older then me, but looks younger. She's very skinny, and has an anxious look on her face all the time. I am interested in her. I am not a lesbian, I'm more assexual then anything else. I just feel like we have a lot in common with our anxiety. Im scared to talk to her, because I know her anxiety is very bad. I don't want to trigger her.
I just kind of want to look like her. I want to lose more weight, and cut my hair short. I also bought a pair of Under Armour sweatpants.
Do I kind of want to be like her? I have my own personality, and I am happy with my life, I just don't always like the way I look physically. I am focused on losing weight, and I had planned on cutting my hair short anyways after losing the last 30 pounds, so maybe I'm just focused on my own physical appearance?
I'm just really confused.
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Hey Bozdickens, I can relate to the way you feel, I've always felt very awkward in social situations, and have had a hard time trying to find a way to approach someone that I thought I might could have some kind of connection with. I used to want to be more like people that I liked, or people I thought looked the way I wanted to look. I've always been a little "chubby" even when I was in the best shape of my life - in high school. I lifted weights every day, took karate, and ran a little, but I still felt like I looked bad... I've gotten past that to some extent now, but I'm still self-conscience of how I look.
My feeling about you wanting to talk to her, but being afraid to is this - I feel like it would probably make her feel nice to know that someone noticed her, just because she's "herself". Just approach her 'gently', and I think you'll be fine. I can't speak for her, but I can tell you that whenever someone reaches out to me, it really makes me feel nice inside.
I hope this helps, and I wish you the best. If you ever want to talk more, just send me a message.
