Open eyes, I agree. I told her that we needed to come to some sort of conclusion so we can move past this, cause it's hurting the children. She said "They are fine", but I beg to differ. I'm at the point now where it might be best we end it and move on with our separate lives. I really tried to make amends, offered counseling and everything else but she is still rude, cold and belittling towards me and I don't deserve it