I think this all makes sense, I have changed some in the past few months, once I disclosed and I started diving into the why's that I act this way or that way, I have changed some of the way I handle things and view life. I am still in depression, and some days are really bad, but the fact that I have changed some, has effected our marriage.

I am not the same person I was when we started seeing each other. I am not even the same person I was 2 years ago, before any therapy, but just because of everything that I have gone through. I have seen a part of him that I never realized was there. Maybe it was there, and I just never saw it, or it fit what I needed at the time! I didn't or don't want my marriage to end, but he has made that decision for himself, and went out and broke our vows. I don't even think I can fight to keep him at this point. After all that has happned the past few months, there isn't anything left that I see to fight for.

I do think that therapy changes a person, for the better, and like what was said in this thread, if your significant other doesn't grow with you we begin to pull apart. I think I have started this therapy, and it has been rough and instead of standing beside me he has walked away........that hurts.......