Cool, thanks! [emoji41]
So upon reflection, my first therapist terminated our relationship very unethically. I was 18 at the time, and it couldn't have been more than 6 months after her hospitalizing me for a multitude of reasons.
Though not a minor, my parents were still financially responsible for services rendered by T1. I don't know all of the details, but my parents were in arrears several hundred dollars to T. Unbeknownst to me, T1 had been trying to contact my parents about this with no luck.
So out of the blue one day at the end of a session, T1 says "well, Daisy, that's going to be our last session." I, of course, freak out. T1 explains why she was terminating, and I was livid at my parents that they could be so neglectful. Mind you, one of my primary issues that I'm dealing with is surrounding the emotional and physical neglect of my parents. Another one of my majors is abandonment.
So I leave T1 and go into damage control, calling my parents to resolve this. Couldn't contact them. So I end up calling T1 on her secure line and saying something like, "look, if I can bring $75 to our next session, can we not terminate please?" I'm desperate.
T calls me back later that afternoon and says that she wants to hear it from my stepmom or dad. She has left them both voicemails and she'll let me know.
So my stepmom hears the voicemail first, and calls T1 back while I was in the room. T1 answers and says, "so I talked to Daisy and you'll be sending a check or card for $75 next week?" Stepmom says, "oh, $75 is kind of steep on short notice. Not sure why Daisy said that. I'm happy to negotiate though."
T responds with "you know what? Never mind. Your daughter is a pathological liar and needs way more help than I can provide. I'm done." I heard every word.
Of course I lied! The one person that I'm supposed to trust and now she's abandoning me too? I went into survival mode, and when I was a kid, the lies spared me the abuse.
Now I've never seen the files from T1. No desire to. I can only imagine it'd be traumatic. So knowing that I'm probably a clinical pathological liar according to T1, and I got busted in a lie, I didn't report. My stepmom considered it, but I had to do it apparently because of my age.