Unfortunately your pdoc was right that he cant help if you're not willing to take meds because for the majority that's all they do, a few do therapy as well but those are pretty limited anymore, atleast that I've seen. Understand I'm not pushing one way or the other on the med thing but understand that his being able help lies in your willingness to take meds. Given you have a T, I would assume the above is true about pdoc(strictly dx'ing and meds). If you make the decision to try meds he might be willing to help again, but that's if and when that decision is made.