Coming here today and reading this whole thread I realize how petty this all sounds,it looks like I wasn't asked to be in the wedding and now I'm just throwing a tantrum over it because things didn't go my way.That's not what it is.

I have been thinking about all this since last night and it's almost like she's a completely different person now that she is living with this guy.She is so different from what she was when they were just having an online relationship.I know people do change when they're in serious relationships,especially a new one,but not this much.I have not even had a phone conversation with her without him being right beside her,asking who she's talking to,listening to what she's saying,her explaining to him what our conversation is about.We don't have real conversations like we used to,we used to tell each other everything,good and bad.We called each other any time,night or day when one of us needed to talk to someone.We spent many hours talking about this relationship and she shared all the problems with him and I voiced my opinion because I was very concerned,because I care.I told her once they got together he was still going to be the same person,he wasn't going to magically change and that you can't change a person.

Today instead of being hurt for not being asked to be in the wedding I am very concerned about her.All I hear from her is how great this guy is,how happy she is,but of course he's always right there beside her when she says all this stuff.I haven't seen her face to face since he got here and have not got to talk to her without him being around.It makes me worry about all the what if's I had before she met him in person.What if this 100% change in her is because he's very controlling?

What if some of my questions and doubts about him are true and that's the reason she doesn't want me to meet him?She was all for me meeting him until he actually got here.What if he's not that great guy and I was right?

If she's upset because I wasn't supportive of the relationship,well she should be able to understand it was coming from a place of concern for her and not out of malice.

IDK,I'm just confused by all of it.Maybe I should just let all of this go for now and let it all play out however it's going to.Maybe I should attend the wedding and just wish her the best and keep my fingers crossed that things will be good for her.Or maybe I will tell her I would like to get together with her,just me and her and talk,find out what's really going on.Not sure which yet.

Thanks for all the replies here.