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Originally Posted by ruh roh
Is this the first vacation she's taken with you as a client?
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No, this is the 2nd one. The last one was just over a year ago, it was right as the attachment was starting and I was still pretty much fighting it. Right before that vacation, I had been working up to talking about a big topic, well talking about it in layers and I had purposely put off talking about it more because I didn't want to go a long period of time without checking in; making sure we were still ok. I was seeing her in the mornings then. On the first visit back, I got a call from the clinic staff about 30 mins before the appointment that she had a family emergency and had to leave. So it was another week before I saw her. Now I see her 2x a week and I am letting the other parts of me be heard more.
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Originally Posted by justafriend306
Could you rephrase the background and your question please? Forgive me. I haven't been able to understand your post.
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Additional quick background: I have significant maternal transference going on. The part of me that sees a part of her as Mommy is a little boy of about 4-5 yr. old. With that comes all the emotions and feelings of a typical 4-5 yr. old. And mommy is going away. She will forget about. She will be different when she comes back. What if she doesn't come back. Who will take care of me while she is gone. What if I get a booboo... and so on. Yeah, these are not the thoughts of the adult me. Adult me is like, yes, she needs a vacation to take care of herself, I need her to not burn out, it has been a long time since she's taken time for herself, it is only 12 days... and so on. I have yet to learn how to soothe the little boy in a way that works. As it is, I already journal to her daily and some weeks Wen to Mon is too long without contact and I email her.
So, my question is for those that also are dealing with strong attachments to their T from such a young part of themselves, how did they deal with the separation that comes from a vacation? What things did they try to do before the vacation to help and what things did they learn from the vacation to try in the next time? Did they have to bring it up or did their T's bring it up (and in my child mind, T bringing it up and offering solutions = T taking care of me)?
Does that help explain my ask?