Hi Elio,

My T started the vacation talk before Mr and I am glad that she did, because I was trying to avoid it, trying to pretend that it wasn't happening, as I often do with things like this. It doesn't help though, so I am pleased we talked about it and thought of what I needed, because it was easier for me both during and after the vacation.

In the end we decided on a few things.
I asked T for something soft of hers, a stuffed toy or a blanket or something. She said that she would have a think about this, and I jumped to the wrong conclusions as usual. (I thought she was thinking about whether to or not. She was thinking about what it could be). In the end she gave me a bear and I slept with it every night and cuddled it when I missed her.
I also asked for a letter or something which I could open half way through the holiday, which she did, and I think it helped too.
T also text Mr when she got back from her holiday, even though it was 4 days before we met again, which we didn't agree on but I am pleased she did, because it meant that I knew that she was safe. (Did also make me a bit cross that she wouldn't meet me the day she got back though, unrealistic, I know!).
We also talked about where she was going and while she was there I looked at a live web cam a couple of times a day, just to make sure the place was still there. If it was then maybe she was! It helped and it wasn't obsessive (because in all honesty it was just a boring picture!).
I also asked if I could drop a letter or two at her house (we meet there) if I needed and wanted to and she said that it would be fine. I didn't in the end, but I did write to her every day in an email and I sent it when I knew she was back home. It was about seven pages long! I knew that if I emailed I would just worry. Was she reading them? Would she reply? Was every day too much? Etc etc, so I knew just best not to. Would be worth thinking about though.

All these things I think helped, because this time we were back to 'normal' after just a week as opposed to about 4 weeks last time, even though that was a shorter break.

Hope it helps. Hope you can have these discussions. Hope that it goes as well as possible for you.