I have a difficult time w/my T being away. I have a lot of shame about considering I'm a high functioning university professor and mom of 2 with an apparently 'normal' life. I should be able to deal with this, right?? ugh.

Anyway, I am allowed to text to connect when T is away, though I try not to. I have a transitional object that T gave me, which helps. The last time T was away, the most helpful thing I did was this. I left a Word document open on my computer, and every time I felt sad or had something to say or was mad or whatever - I wrote in down in the Word document. It turned into a journal of sorts for the week T was away. It was very freeing to 'say' to her in those pages all the things I wanted to say about her being away that I would never, ever say to her in person. AND, it allowed me to get all that 'stuff' out of me and put it somewhere. I still really struggle and I'm dreading that T will be gone again for a week in about 2 weeks. Good luck to you. Ask your T for what you need. You might be sorry you didn't during the away time.