My first recommendation is to find a good counselor for him. I was never abused, so I can't speak (first-hand) on that account, but I know without doubt that trauma so young in life can leave lasting scars, and will ripple through the rest of his life, and will not get better without help.

I have to say that you are an amazing wife for not walking out on him as soon as you found out - so many would have. You two have come too far together to give up now. If you love him - and you sure seem to - then help him to get the help he needs.

As for my beliefs, marriage is a life-long commitment, and love is not 'just' and emotion. Yes, it is something we "feel" but true love is not just an emotion; real love is a commitment that lasts for all of our days on this earth. Hang in there, and help him to get the help he needs, and I think one day you'll be glad you did. I hope this helps.