Is there any chance that David can get counseling? I am very surprised that the VA turned him down, because military-induced PTSD is a known issue with military vets. Hang in there. Sometimes I think that the best thing for me was having someone to talk me back to reality whenever I triggered and started having flashbacks... of course, that depends on what he is like. I had flashes of anger sometimes when I would startle at the slightest noise and start screaming... it was worse when my husband told me to calm down... I am telling you this because perhaps you might experience this too... it is not rational... nothing about PTSD is rational. It is a waking nightmare. You must be really special to want to stay with him and help him heal.

I will read your other post when I find the strength. Meanwhile, keep posting and asking any questions that you have.

Obsidian