confused, There are so many things I want to say to you after reading this post. I don't think I can say anything though, that you haven't heard already.

I think the advice to protect yourself and watch your back are the best 2 pieces of advice. It IS possible to do this w/out being paranoid. I KNOW cause I have done it. You must also do even the smallest things to pamper & treat yourself. These are little things like using the shower gel you love and listening to the songs you love. Each thing seems silly and tiny, but they add up to you taking care of only you in good ways that don't hurt you. I remember when I look back that these small things gave me moments of pleasure that added together were big. Those who have never lived with the betrayal of affairs have no idea how much your self-confidence erodes to the point where you don't even realize how much you are being abused.

Please take care of you

tulips