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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
Having occassional cravings sounds normal. In my experience (alcohol), the longer you have stopped taking it, the less often you will think about it. She is lucky to have a partner who keeps her on the straight and narrow. If you were a user, she might find it impossible to kick a drug habit that can eventually cause a lot of damage (heart health, etc). Sometimes people's emotional reactions are unpleasant but if you can keep talking about it with her, maybe you can get to the point where you can get those feelings out (and then the negative feelings will be mostly gone). Sometimes other people's pain is unpleasant but a good partner will listen--if not during the first talk then maybe during a 2nd or 3rd talk. I have learned that it is not good to bury/hide my feelings from my partner--they end up growing into something in the back of your mind that is more extreme than reality! It is OK to feel hurt, our feelings just are. Perhaps she was also a bit emotional during the discussion. When you talk to her again, perhaps include thanking her for giving up her drug habit and tell her that your glad she's stopped because you want her around for a very long time. Whenever you can, think of at least one positive thing to say if you need to tell your partner something negative..... 
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Thank you reading and taking the time to response! Maybe from your experience you can help... yes for a fact she wouldn't have stopped using drugs if it wasn't for me. The problem is that she sees NOTHING wrong with it every so often. She sees it as fun times. And that makes me feel she will always be that person that thinks about it and wants it. I came to terms with the fact that I can not change a person if they themselves do not want to change. Yes she stopped but not because she wanted to 100% she felt forced from me. And if you leave it up to her she would be okay with using drugs. That is were our disagreement takes place I can not change how she thinks and that just makes me feel the needs somebody else by her side, someone that is different and will accept her with whatever lifestyle she wants.