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Originally Posted by mctone
My first recommendation is to find a good counselor for him. I was never abused, so I can't speak (first-hand) on that account, but I know without doubt that trauma so young in life can leave lasting scars, and will ripple through the rest of his life, and will not get better without help.
I have to say that you are an amazing wife for not walking out on him as soon as you found out - so many would have. You two have come too far together to give up now. If you love him - and you sure seem to - then help him to get the help he needs.
As for my beliefs, marriage is a life-long commitment, and love is not 'just' and emotion. Yes, it is something we "feel" but true love is not just an emotion; real love is a commitment that lasts for all of our days on this earth. Hang in there, and help him to get the help he needs, and I think one day you'll be glad you did. I hope this helps.
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Hello, thank you for your kind words and recommendations I appreciate it! We are currently with a counselor who I feel is really great and is at some point going to do CBT therapy with him alone. He was diagnosised with PTSD as well. I guess it just crosses my mind sometimes what if he is Bisexual and don't want to face it. Although he has said that he has thought it over again and again and he has no attraction to men. I do have the same beliefs as you when it comes to marriage. I'd just hate to walk away from something then have it be only due to trauma