No worries, your daughter and I shares similar styles of independance. She wants to be in control because it's like an image to portray, to show she is strong. However the hard truth is, we punish ourselves by not letting others help us because we are subconsciously trying to maintain that image of independence. I've learnt to love myself after punishing myself for so long and I wished people see me as a person behind all these image that I was trying to portray.

If you remove layers and layers of a human protection, you will see that at the end of the day, you're seeing a person in their purest form.

Your daughter is probably on the path of self-learning, but not yet at the true level of loving and taking care of herself. It's a life of trial-and-error, but like your intent, I also don't want to see her being led astray and learn painful lessons. You and her closest friends are the ones who is able to guide her, so we should be mindful of how we approach her.