I don't have an answer for you, but I blame myself for my daughter's MI problems. First off, as someone who went to college for Human Services, I feel that I should have noticed that she was struggling, before she came to me at the beginning of her senior year and asked me to get her a therapist. To this day I don't understand how I missed it, but I did. I also feel that my MI issues, which I have been able to hide most of my life, may have impacted her indirectly. I always felt that I had my anxiety issues under control, but I now realize that I probably didn't and that I modeled anxious behavior to her all of her life. When I was in college I knew that I needed help, but never went into therapy. I ended up going in a different direction professionally. I often wonder if I had gone into therapy when I was in college, if my daughters struggles would have been less. My therapist now tells me its not my fault. I don't believe her. I'm not sure I can ever forgive myself for failing her.