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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
If nothing else, when I eventually become ready for a relationship, I would want somebody who is more damaged than myself; somebody with serious depression or codependency issues that is so afraid of being alone that they would put up with me no matter how bad my own issues became and would therefore, listen to me and obey me no matter what. Somebody that I have a degree of power over and not the other way around.
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Besides feeling damaged, you have also spoken about how much you have and are overcoming. Hopefully, as time goes on you will think less about the traumatic parts of your life. I think a certain amount of codependency is OK and in relationships--there is always an element of taking the good with the bad. However, it is so important to be careful not to motivate people's behaviors through fear and punishment. Positive reinforcement, especially when it comes from a feeling of love will just make everyone feel so much better. I wonder how many of us became MI because anxious people were trying to control us through fear and punishment? <<hugs>>