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Originally Posted by Medusax
All comments welcome here, as I am asking for some insight. Long story short, I have a delightful co-worker that loves nature like I do, and is really actually FUN to be around. She is a bit dramatic, but THAT I can handle. What I cannot handle, as I am 100% opposed to such behavior, is her habitual falsehood spewing. She literally says something outlandish about someone each time I see her. Yesterday she told a mutual friend something that has no basis in ANY fact, in ANY capacity. I am a very honest person and I am going to call her on it, hopefully I won't be harsh about it. But, gossip and tall-tale telling are one of my pet peeves when it comes to people. I get the overwhelming urge to wring someone's neck when they do this. Is this a disorder? I would think it is. I would never just blurt out something like; "Sally" snuck out of her house and slept with "Jimmy". The reason I am so violently against it is because twice in my life, gossip and the perpetrators thereof have caused me trouble.Personally, I am a secret keeper. If I actually SAW "Sally" and "Jimmy" doing anything, I would just keep on going and not tell anyone. I have always been this way, so i can't imagine the opposite.
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Medusax, I have to totally agree with you on this. Telling lies about people (or anything else, for that matter) is just not okay. In fact it's not just "not okay" it's just wrong. Gossip is dangerous! It can cause people who like, and care about each other to hate each other, and cause innocent people to get in trouble for things they had nothing to do with.
I'm not an expert, but I'm going to say that this is NOT a disorder... lying is a disorder... but your reaction is not, at least in my humble opinion.
That being said, if you decide to confront this person, just use kindness. Two wrongs don't 'right' anything, and I have a feeling I don't even need to tell you that. And, this is coming from a non-confrontational person, so I don't know if it's worth much or not; just my feeling. I still believe we should treat others the way we would want to be treated. So before you confront her, ask your self, "If I had done something I shouldn't have, how would I want someone to confront me about it?" I hope you find this helpful