In December my husband admitted to having an affair with another woman. We have been working through this in couples therapy and also each seeing our therapist individually. Since that day though I have completely lost who I am. I was never a "girly girl" rarely putting on make up, usually putting my hair in a pony tail, and wearing geeky t-shirts and jeans. Now I dress up daily, wear make up, straighten my hair, and stopped doing anything that I used to enjoy like watching my favorite shows, writing, or doing anything that my husband has ever joked about in the past. Even sex has changed because I do things that I never would have before. If my husband or my kids are not home or not awake I end up just sitting and waiting for them to give me purpose.... Basically I am a mess and I have no idea how to come back to what I was. Is that even possible or am I stuck being this shell of myself for the rest of my life?