Two is work, and I'm not talking about the pregnancy or postpartum issues. My saving grace was that I was very stable at the time I was having my children; you have to be able to fully be there for them and be pretty stable so you can really effectively parent.

My instability came when I was older and my children were in their elementary and high school years. It was hard on them and I do think they bear some effects from having Mom not be fully there for them. They're great kids (adults really now), and I have no regrets about having them. I do have some regrets for putting them through my years of instability (and I was pretty high functioning).

Babies don't stay babies, and kids watch and see and are affected by what they witness their parents go through, how present their parents are able to be for them, how stable their parents are for themselves and as a constant presence in their lives.

You have just come off a period where you were unable to live with your husband and daughter due to your instability. It might be a good idea to see how well you can maintain stability for a year or so before you venture into the stress of a second child. It is okay to dedicate your time to your daughter and husband, putting your energy into maintaining stability for them, growing those relationships, and healing from those times that weren't the best.