I'm glad you still enjoyed your day. I'm sorry you missed your outing, but hopefully you'll get out there soon.
Getting educated about PTSD helped. we also cut out influence from unhealthy parents, and other problem relationships. Marriage counseling was helpful in ways, but so tense and always triggered us. We didn't finish it, but I go on my own to counseling. I enjoyed a PTSD group I participated in, but it was so difficult for me, too.
We began figuring out/admitting which of our beliefs/behaviors were over the top, harmful, or about our childhoods. Then, we learned new coping skills. It was trial and error.
My husband and I both noticed how our behavior intensified when our children became the ages we were when we were abused. We had to work harder to stay balanced.
It helps that my husband and I have very similar values. And we both want to be mentally and emotionally healthy. But still! It can get so difficult with the cptsd.