Hi Sass, I'm truly sorry you've had this experience and good for you not getting drawn into these 'games' with these women.

Like wolfgaze I'd encourage you to look to your past and explore if you feel you've healed from that early experience. Young girls can be very cruel when in groups and I'm ashamed to say I've been on both sides. I remember joining in with the ostracising of another girl when we were 10/11 - I liked her and so the question is why did I join in with the others cruel games? It was because I was desparate to be part of that group - I did not have the strength of character to do the right thing, I was weak and silly. If I met her today I would apologise.

A year later I moved schools and found myself the target of a bully girl and her group - I then understood about cruelty and it's impact. I guess they banded together for the same reasons I did earlier at my other school.

Over the years I've experienced being cliqued out a few times (although I never again did it to another), and sometimes I've been the loner, or I've stuck with the guys. I don't fight against it, I observe it for what it is - it's sad and pointless behaviour and it's all about weakness and insecurity. It goes on a little bit where I work now - I stand apart and am true to myself and my own values (that is something I learned from both bullying and being bullied).

Don't let these women draw them into their little power games, stand apart, be alone if necessary and be that positive generous person you obviously are. Many, many people (other women too) will appreciate your qualities.