@complex21 ... Thank you. Yeah, it's uh. I dunno. It's not fun. But on the upside, I think this could be an opportunity for growth. I wish it wouldn't have happened this way, but I think he finally understands I am not her.

@amandalouise... First, random and unrelated, but that emotion book you mentioned to me back whenever... thank you. I made little assignments from that and it has been enormously helpful. You rock. Sorry it took me this long to remember to say thank you. I'm an airhead you know... heh heh.

As for post relevant stuff... I dunno if we have someone who has that info. I think I have a handle on who lived those years... I might be missing some, but it was two main ones and I don't have consistent co con with the one who actually married the guy. She either shows up and communicated with me or she doesn't. It's likely not helping that she is beyond irate with him and has been for years now. She's got a temper and he made her sh** list. The info is there i just can't access it through her. It had not occurred to me to try to look elsewhere. I'll ask around.

Most of the time we all have a basic idea of what happened but lack the details, so it's like we know enough to pass so long as no one gets too close or asks questions or wants to talk about something specific. I know, for example, the year I married the guy and that we went to a courthouse, but I can't say much about anything else that happened. I just know it did happen. I don't even remember if my parents were there or not. I think my kids were. I dunno. It's that kinda stuff that gets me and makes me into an accidental jerk more often than I would like. Frickin frackin details...

-V