JelloFluff,
I do understand the concept of transference, as far as I know. There are times when I feel such anger and resentment towards my same-age T and I feel exactly like I do with my dad. And I yell at him, T, that this is some sort of weird transference zhit and what the hell?! Then we talk through it.

It's just that I've never had romantic feelings towards any of my therapists, so I guess I just couldn't relate to the original post. Since I couldn't relate, I probably shouldn't have reacted. But I do think I stated that she should discuss her feelings with her therapist--because we should be as honest as we can with our therapists. The rest of you were much more understanding. . .