I know that when my parents threatened to drug test me, I lied and bargined to down play my using anything that threatened it...to me it wasn't as bad as non users saw it. It was all personal to me, I didn't seek out people to pray on...I worked telemarketing jobs, got a pay cheque and bought drugs. My friends did the same...it wasn't this monster like people like to paint out...everyone is different tho, I had a roof over my head and my friends and it was fun...until things started being off in my head.

When people start talking about tough love and ultimatums, it's all very threatening and upsetting, I wouldn't take well to it if someone I cared about started saying they were going to do this to me...I wanted love. So I don't understand how it helps people with addiction to stop using, I'd think it was just another person leaving...that's just me. So when there is an addict in my life, my first response is to love them...until they give me a reason not to.