I will split the difference with you guys ... been married 30 plus years never cheated never will ... we have not had sex for years ... and probably never will again ... we have both gotten quite heavy ... it became difficult to physically have sex then my libdo just could not muster enough ( to keep it up) anymore ... just no desire for sex ... yes it is due to our weight .. she is a very lovely woman and I love her very much but just can not see myself having sex with her anymore ... ( and before anyone suggests it ... due to her shity religious background ) she is totally against oral , masturbation or any "toys" ... it's intercourse or nothing ...

so I see both sides of the issue ... but I will not be cheating on her ... that might be the difference ...