Just curious – and I know there'll probably be no clear answer – but what if somebody is in a long-term affair and can't decide between doing the "right" thing aka staying in a long term marriage - and going officially for the Affair partner - Assuming there has not been an incident where the affair was found out, despite the long duration ....... Betrayed Spouse has no clue about Affair or me going to therapy ..... I seek counseling because I'm lost wrt which way to go ..... What would the individual counselor tell me? Are they usually biased towards pro Marriage?? Are they being educated that way? I'm not talking about a church related counseling session, btw. Just a regular college educated family counselor.