This is heavy on my heart.

I've been friends with a person for 20+ years. We've raised our boys together and have shared many fun times, good and bad.

In my healing I'm realizing that she is controlling, judgmental and condescending. I talking with her today on the phone and felt so weighed down after I hung up.

I know that I need to distance myself from her for me. I don't want to hurt her heart. She has told me several times that she "struggles with rejection" and I do t want to wound her. I just can't continue to listen to her anymore.

A part of me wants to say that she is just working me/us. That causes anger and distress.

I don't know how to do this with strength and respect.

Has anyone else walked through this? Please don't tell me to say mean things to her because I just can't. I don't know how and wouldn't want to. If that makes sense. Not that you would. Just saying.

To the moderators. I respect your decision to move this, if that is what you think is best. I really need input and would thank you, if you decide to move it to another appropriate place where you think is best.